Yep. Tried it once. Thought I was smarter than the average sucker.
She was sweet, stayed the night without asking for money the first couple times, even turned down a gift once. I thought, “this one’s different.”

We did dates. We laughed. We had deep convos about life and family.
Then I found out she was seeing three other “boyfriends” — two local, one in Singapore — all doing the same thing I thought was exclusive.

I wasn’t mad she had other guys. I was mad I believed the fantasy.

Lesson learned: if she met you through a transaction, chances are you’re just part of the rotation — no matter how good it feels.

But hey, no regrets. Every king needs to lose his crown once to earn it back.

I tried once, and it nearly broke me. We stopped doing paid sessions, I paid for her rent instead, and I was even introducing her to my friends as my girlfriend. But slowly, she pulled away—no more affection, stopped replying to messages unless it involved money. Eventually, I found out she was still working on the side. It crushed me. The power dynamic is always there, even when you pretend it's not.

Yes—and no. I never formally “made her my girlfriend,” but we did travel together, stay in hotels, go shopping—without talking money. I thought we were headed toward something real. But then I saw her in another bar a few months later, cozying up to a different guy with the same routine. That’s when I realized: she wasn’t the exception. I was just the Thursday client.

Yeah, I was dumb enough to try it. She stayed sweet for a few weeks, then started flaking, getting “busy,” and suddenly had an emergency every time rent was due. I was playing boyfriend — she was playing sponsor. Lesson learned: don’t fall for someone who’s faking love for a living.

Big mistake. She played along, made me feel special, then ghosted once I stopped sending cash. You can’t buy love in Thailand—it’ll always be a rental.

Tried it once. For a few weeks, it felt real—movies, dinners, even met her cousin. But behind the scenes, she was still seeing clients. Painful lesson: love and business don’t mix.

Short answer: yes — and it usually turned into a learning story, not a rom-com. Below’s a real, non-templated take from nights in Sukhumvit, weekends on Walking Street, and a couple of months in Phuket.

It started like this every time: a clean, easy rhythm — dinner, drinks, a laugh, then more time together than I expected. An agency girl in Sukhumvit once agreed to two dates after a paid night; we actually met for coffee the next week. In Pattaya a freelancer I met near Soi 6 and LK Metro kept texting after the bar and asked to hang out without work lights. Those first “off-duty” hangouts feel small and magical — until money becomes the language of the relationship.

What breaks it most often:

Money vs. emotion confusion. You start by paying for time; she’s used to cash as the quickest way to influence behavior. If you don’t deliberately change the payment dynamics, affection will come wrapped in transactions.

Different incentives. Escorts and sugar arrangements are often built around survival, family, or savings goals. That doesn’t mean feelings aren’t sincere, but it changes priorities (and timelines).

Outside pressure. Friends, family, or a “bar life” social circle can pull the relationship back into the transactional zone.

Expectations mismatch. You want exclusivity; she still needs the flexibility the nightlife provides. Or vice versa.

If you’re serious about trying it, do these things early and deliberately:

Stop mixing roles. Move from “date paid after” to equal-split activities: go for coffee, do free daytime things, pay for a couple of meals but not every single one. Make cash gifts occasional, not constant.

Create money boundaries. Agree on what the arrangement covers (pocket money, rent help, gifts) and set a realistic timeline to phase out “support” if the relationship is to be mutual.

Meet her world — and let her see yours. Spend time outside bars: meet friends, do a day trip to Phuket or a market stroll on Sukhumvit. That helps tell whether compatibility is real or just convenient.

Talk about the future bluntly. If you want more than weekends, say it. Ask what she wants. If she wants sponsorship, kids, or marriage someday, you need to know.

Verify practical stuff. If you’re thinking long-term, check basics: living situation, family obligations, and (safely) health status. No surprises later.

Slow the honeymoon. Emotional attachments build fast; build non-sexual routines first (weekly dinners, shared hobbies). That reduces the risk of confusing heat-of-the-moment with long-term fit.

Outcomes I saw:

A few transitions worked into low-drama, semi-stable relationships — mostly with agency girls who already had some structure and fewer family obligations.

More often it became a cycle: affection + money → dependency → resentment → breakup. That was common with freelancers juggling kids, rent, and multiple clients.

The ones that lasted longest treated the relationship as a partnership: shared expenses, shared experiences, and mutually negotiated boundaries.

Practical warning: if you’re an expat thinking of moving someone to your country, expect visa, cultural, and family complications that can torch a relationship even if the feelings are real.

Bottom line — turning an escort or sugar baby into a real girlfriend can happen, but it’s fragile work. If you’re serious, be prepared to trade theatrical generosity for steady investment: time, transparency, and real-life routines that aren’t bought by the hour.

If you tried this — spill it: how did you change the money rules, and did intimacy survive the shift?