In my experience, it totally depends on the girl — and how much she likes you. I’ve had bar girls in Pattaya fake moans and go totally passive, even when I tried to be gentle. But in Bangkok? Different story.

Met a freelancer near Soi Cowboy who looked sweet and quiet, but once we got to the hotel, she wanted it rough. We’re talking hair pulling, deep pounding, dirty talk in broken English — the works. She even asked me to choke her lightly and slap her ass harder. Said, “I like sexy pain.”

That shocked me, honestly. I thought Thai girls preferred soft, slow sex. But with the right vibe and some trust? Some of them really let go.

I still start gentle — but I watch for signals. When they start pushing back or saying “harder,” that’s the green light.

Phuket surprised me the most. I was with a massage girl near Patong, full service setup. She started off super soft — gentle BJ, slow strokes, almost girlfriend style. I figured she was the type who liked it sweet and slow.

But once I flipped her over and picked up the pace, she started moaning louder and pushing her hips back into me. She even grabbed my hand and put it around her throat. Didn’t expect that at all.

Ended up being one of the roughest sessions I’ve ever had in Thailand — hair pulling, ass smacking, full pounding doggy. Afterward she laughed and said, “I don’t like soft man.”

Lesson? Don’t assume based on how they look or how they start. Some girls love it rough — they just wait for you to bring it out.