This is one of the biggest make or break skills in the escorts world.
A lot of guys think escorts, female escorts, companions, call girls, courtesans… it’s all simple. You just send a message and you’re done.
Reality: your first message decides everything.
If you message like a clown, you get ignored. If you message like a bargain hunter, you get blocked. If you message like you have no plan, you get endless back and forth until she disappears.
This thread is about messaging escorts properly so you get a real reply and a smooth booking.
Why escorts ignore most messages
Most inboxes are full of:
- “Hey”
- “How much?”
- “U available now?”
- “Send pics”
- “What services you do?”
- “Any discount?”
- 10 messages in a row like a desperate teenager
If you send that, you look like a problem before you even meet.
The message style that gets replies
You want to sound like:
- a normal man
- respectful but not overly polite
- direct
- organized
- not nervous
- not cheap
The goal is simple: make it easy for her to say yes.
Copy paste example (works)
You can literally use this format:
Hi, are you available today?
I’m looking to meet around 9pm for 1 hour.
Location: (hotel area or general area).
Can you confirm your rate and what’s included?
Short. Clear. No weird talk. No essays.
Biggest mistake: acting like it’s a negotiation
If you try to bargain with companions or call girls, you instantly kill your chances.
Escorts are not a flea market.
Even if she replies, you’ve already positioned yourself as:
- difficult
- cheap
- risky
Let’s make this thread useful
Post below:
- The exact message you usually send escorts (copy paste it)
- Do you get replies often or get ignored?
- What city are you booking in?
I’ll reply with a tighter version that sounds more confident and gets better results.
This is 100% real. Escorts ignore most messages because most guys don’t sound serious. If you message female escorts like you’re bored and fishing, you’ll get ignored. Once I started treating it like an actual booking with a clear plan, I got way more replies from companions and call girls. The “Hey” message is basically a self delete button.
Messaging is totally different depending on who you’re dealing with. With an independent escort, your first message matters more because she’s managing everything herself. With an escort agency, you can sometimes get away with shorter messages because a receptionist is doing the filtering.
Either way, the guys who get replies are the ones who include time, duration, and whether it’s incall or outcall. That’s the difference between serious and time waster.
The “what’s included” line is tricky. I get why guys ask it, but sometimes it can sound a bit weird if you phrase it wrong. I’ve had better luck saying something like “can you confirm your rate and the details for a 1 hour outcall?” It still gets the info but it sounds less like you’re trying to push boundaries. Courtesan type profiles especially seem to respond better when the message stays classy and straightforward.
The bargaining thing is so true. Guys don’t realize that escorts and call girls see that as a red flag, not “smart shopping.” If you’re already trying to negotiate before meeting, you look like the type who will complain, argue, or waste time. I’ve seen friends do it and then act shocked they got blocked. If you can’t afford it, pick a different option. Simple.
My go to message is basically your template but slightly more natural:
“Hi, are you available tonight around 9? Looking for 1 hour, outcall to a hotel near (area). Can you confirm your rate and how you prefer to arrange it?”
That gets replies way more often than long essays. Escorts want clarity. Companions want a plan. If you sound normal and organized, you’re already ahead of 90% of guys.
