Hey everyone, long time lurker on here but finally decided to spill some tea as a sugar baby. I’ve been in the sugar dating scene for about 2 years now – mostly on Secret Benefits and a bit on Seeking Arrangement back when it was called that. Met some great sugar daddies, a few duds, and learned how to navigate those first meets pretty well.
Thing is, on that very first date (usually just drinks or dinner), I tell a few little white lies to keep things smooth, protect myself, and honestly make the connection feel better at the start. I’m not proud of all of them, but they work. Here’s my top 5 confessions:
“This is my first time doing this” – Total lie. Most sugar daddies love feeling like they’re “introducing” a newbie to the lifestyle. Makes them feel special and less like they’re one of many.
“I’m not seeing anyone else right now” – Even if I have one or two ongoing arrangements. Early on, exclusivity talk scares guys off or makes them lowball the allowance.
“I really enjoy [insert his random hobby]” – If he’s into golf, sailing, whatever… I nod along like I’m fascinated. Keeps the vibe fun and flirty instead of transactional.
“I’ve never asked for this much before” – When I bring up allowance numbers. Makes the amount I’m requesting feel more reasonable to him, even if it’s my standard.
“I don’t usually meet so quickly” – Classic safety play. Makes me seem selective and cautious, which weirdly makes some sugar daddies try harder.
I’m curious – do other sugar babies do this too? Or am I the only shady one? 😅 And sugar daddies reading this… did you already know? Be honest, which ones have you heard before?
Girl SAME on #1 and #4 especially! I’ve been on Secret Benefits for over a year and saying “this is new to me” instantly makes sugar daddies more generous with the first allowance. They love the mentor vibe. I feel a tiny bit guilty but it keeps things light. Great confession thread!
As a sugar daddy who’s been on both Seeking and Secret Benefits, I’ve definitely heard most of these 😂 The “first time” one is the most common – I just smile and go with it because I know the game. Doesn’t bother me as long as the connection is real after that. Honest post, respect for owning it.
Haha #3 is my go to too! Last month a sugar daddy started talking about crypto the whole dinner and I acted like I was super into it. Ended up with a nice allowance anyway. We sugar babies gotta do what works early on. Anyone else fake interest in sports?
Not mad at all – honestly expected. The one that always makes me laugh is when a sugar baby says she’s “not seeing anyone else” but her profile was active that morning on Seeking Arrangement. Still, if the chemistry’s there and the allowance talk goes smooth, I don’t care about the little lies. Keeps first dates fun.
This is so helpful as a newbie sugar baby! I just started on Secret Benefits and was wondering what others say on first meets. I’ve only done the “I don’t usually do this” one so far and it worked – he upped the allowance offer right away. Thanks for the real talk, makes me feel less alone!
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